Breaking Free: Overcoming Toxic Influences & Becoming Body Positive.
I think absolutely everyone can say that they have come into contact with a toxic person at some point in their life; a parent, a friend, a co-worker or maybe even a partner. Anyone who has had a toxic influence in their life will know how absolutely draining and mentally damaging it can be to deal with, the effects can often be lifelong.
I know that personally I am still dealing with the mental impact caused by toxic influences in my life. These influences have primarily caused a lot of self-doubt and self-consciousness particularly in relation to the way I view myself and my body. However, recently I’ve started to take baby steps in the direction of breaking the cycle of toxic habits that have been caused by the toxic influences in my life and I decided that I’d bring my blog on the journey, sharing my progress and tips on how to start to free yourself from toxicity too.
When it comes to fashion, we’ve all heard of the supposed magical properties that black clothes hold, ‘Get it in black and you’ll look so much thinner’. Well I’ve got some news for you, whether you wear it in pink, white, black or fluorescent yellow, whether you’re a size 6 or a size 26 you’ll still just look like a size 6 or 26 person wearing a dress. Yes, okay I’ll concede that some clothes are more flattering on certain figures and body types than others but in reality whose place is it to say what we should wear? If you feel as though you’re rocking it then damn well wear it & don’t let anyone stop you!
As a plus sized lady myself for the longest time I have only really brought clothes that hide my figure because it’s been programmed into my mind that there are certain clothes that people just don’t want to see a ‘fat’ girl wearing. Recently however, I’ve started to take back control of my wardrobe and have discovered a new love for the jumpsuit. I had always been told that as a plus sized lady with tummy that the jumpsuit was not a fashion choice for me, as heaven forbid that I show the world that I have a tummy. As if it wasn’t already bloody obvious in just about any outfit that I put on. I don’t put a long line top on and then suddenly, as if by magic, my tummy disappears and I go from looking like my regular size 20-22 self to a size 12.
I’ve come to realise recently that the only person that I should be dressing for is myself. As long as I feel confident and comfortable in what I’m wearing, then it shouldn’t matter what anyone else thinks. I can’t claim that I’m a body positive influencer unless I truly start becoming positive about my own body and all of its quirks & wobbly bits too.
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Until next week